Hmmm. I am me has not been a problem for me.
However finding people who are remotely similar has been a challenge. I'm not transgendered, though at some parts of my life I strongly desired a gender change (and occasionally still long for it). I'm not, strictly speaking, gay, though I certainly have leanings in that direction. I dress exclusively male, and have for most of my life even tho I'm physically female. I'm a tool using, solidly muscled person who finds "fashionable" clothes generally uncomfortable so I dont wear them.
So who am I? Heck if I know, or even much care. I'm me.