Or: A guest post on The Novel Approach (with giveaway) celebrating the release of Blue Steel Chain–

When False Colors came out in 2009, I still thought I was straight. I remember the furor that was kicked up by the marketing campaign for that book, which was released as part of a four book attempt to take m/m romance to the mainstream under the ill advised marketing slogan âm/m romance by straight women for straight women.â The four authors involved were somewhat startled by this because they were Erastes, Lee Rowan, Donald Hardy and me. Thatâs two bisexual women, a gay man, and an asexual person who really still isnât quite sure about this whole gender business.
Iâve digressed. My point was that at the time I didnât know that asexuality existed. I thought I was the token straight in that group. Iâd always been aware that Iâd never been very good at being straight. Iâd always felt that there were vast areas in our culture that I just wasnât getting. The whole business with sex, for example. What was the attraction? What was the point? I could see that it seemed to be a huge driving force in human interaction, and yet for me it was a blank space. Did that mean I wasnât human? I sometimes felt that way.
I defined myself in negatives. I wasnât a woman but I wasnât a man. So I probably wasnât trans. I wasnât gay or bi or poly, but I really wasnât very straight either.
How could a person who was so nothing ever actually exist at all?
That may not sound like an important question, if youâre the kind of concrete realist who can then go on to say âand yet I do, and my existence is valid.â But as an artist and an INTP, Iâm a pattern maker by nature, and when I didnât fit into any of the available patterns it did tend to lead me down the road of âthen you must be a mistake. If thereâs no space for you in this world, perhaps the world would be better off without you.â
An interesting thing that happened to me recently was that I began to go to a therapist (for non-writing related reasons). On one occasion I said to her âMy depression hasnât been so bad the last three years.â Another time I said âI found out about asexuality about three years ago, and that cleared up a lot of questions Iâd had.â She was the one who said âYou donât think the timing of those two things is significant?â
I think it probably is.
Iâm supposed to be talking about Blue Steel Chain, arenât I? But this backstory is relevant to that book. By the time I discovered that asexuality was an actual thing, I had already lived for forty seven years. I had lived for 47 years not knowing that I wasnât simply a failure at being a human being.
Asexuality is known as one of the âinvisible orientations,â because there is so little awareness in society that it exists at all. Asexual people can go their whole lives asking âwhatâs wrong with me?!â and never get an answer.
Naturally once Iâd found this out, I knew I had to do something about it. I had to spread the news and let other people know that they too were not as broken as they might have thought. So I wrote Blue Steel Chain, a romance in which one of my main characters is asexual.
I thought I was writing it mainly for me â mainly for the thrill of thumbing my nose at all those people who assumed that I was writing romance for the sex. âIâll show them what I really think about sex!â I thought. âThatâll teach them.â
(Because Iâm clearly a very mature person these days.)
What I didnât anticipate was that the moment I said I was writing a book with an ace main character, so many people would start saying âYes! I feel represented. I canât wait!â
I really hope I donât let you down. There are as many different ways to be ace as there are people, and Aidan canât be all of them. But I hope those of you who are ace can recognize something in him and go âHa! Yes! Itâs just like that.â And I hope those who arenât will find it fun anyway, and useful for knowing how to deal with the Aces you meet in your life.
Judging from the latest surveys of slash writers/readers I think there are a disproportionate number of us amongst m/m fans. So the chances are you will meet one of us sooner or later. Be prepared!
Mirrored from Alex Beecroft - Author of Gay Historical and Fantasy Fiction.